My kid is on drugs, what can I do?

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It's important for you to know that many young people experiment with some sort of drug; it's part of growing up. But most don't become dependent. In fact, the majority of young people cope very well without drugs in this stressful time in their lives.

Although illegal drugs receive the most publicity, alcohol is much more likely to be the drug kids try first.

Some signs that may indicate your child has a problem:


  • Your kid shows a sudden change in behaviour, a change in appearance, or a change in attitude to you or other family members.
  • Your kid may become more secretive, or less helpful at home.
  • School grades drop, or you find money missing.
  • Your kid has a new group of friends, or doesn't bring friends home any more.

These could be warnings that your daughter or son is involved with drugs. But remember, adolescence is naturally a time for great change; there may be other causes for these changes. Try not to jump to conclusions.

What do you mean, don't panic?

Guilt, fear, and anger are natural reactions when you suspect your kid is on drugs. But wait. Calm down before discussing your concerns with your child. Approach drug use the same way you would approach any other issue with your child. If you aren't sure about what to do, find help in your community.

My kid doesn't listen to me.

Listening is a two-way street. Are you listening to your kid? Are you paying attention to what she's saying? Lecturing an adolescent is seldom effective.

How serious is it?

Find out what you're dealing with -- the type of drug or drugs being used, and the extent and frequency of use.

What if my kid denies using drugs?

Don't turn it into a confrontation. Leave the discussion to another time. Show you have confidence in your child. Praising him when he does things well can improve his self-esteem.

Why my kid?

Drug use can affect any family. It doesn't mean you have failed as a parent.

Are my own actions affecting my kid's behaviour?

Although you have let your child know that you are opposed to drug use, your own use of alcohol, cigarettes, or pills may be sending mixed messages from you as a role model.

With both parents working, my kid has a lot of free time after school.

Encourage her to get involved in after-school activities. When you are at home, spend time with your child, perhaps watching television programs she likes to watch. At times like these, the topic of drugs may come up more naturally.

I don't know anything about drugs.

Parents who know about drugs -- how they're used, what their effects are, and what the law is -- are both more confident and more believable as information sources for kids.
You can find out. The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health has a confidential 24-hour Information Line, call toll-free 1-800-463-6273.

Where can I get outside help?

You may feel most comfortable discussing the situation with your family physician or a public health nurse. Most communities have parent support groups or professional counsellors at family service associations. 

In Peterborough,

Four Counties Addiction Services Team (FourCAST)
130 Hunter St W, Unit 200
Peterborough, ON K9H 2K8
Tel: 705.876.1292
Toll Free: 1.800.461.1909
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Drug and Alcohol Registry of Treatment (DART)
London, Ontario: 519 439-0174
Toll-free: 1 800 565-8603

More information for parents:

Time to Get Help

Parent Action on Drugs

Parents: The Anti-Drug